I have many friends who don’t actually believe in love.
They believe that cohabiting or getting married is just a way to find someone who can help you when you need help.
That’s just sad.
How can you ever find true love or experience the bliss of romance if you don’t even believe it exists?
Love does exist. And it’s a beautiful thing.
Falling in love can feel like a beautiful fairytale if you just know how to experience it.
How to fall in love the right way
If you know how to fall in love with someone and enjoy every moment of it, you’ll be able to experience it and cherish it better than many others who think love is just an excuse for sex or a way to lean on someone else.
It doesn’t matter if you’re already in love or falling in love with someone right this moment, just use these 18 tips on how to fall in love like you’re in a fairytale, and guess what, you will fall into a perfect one!
#1 Stretch the wooing period. Both of you may like each other a lot already. But don’t ask each other out too soon. Stretch the wooing for as long as both of you possibly can. The longer you play the chase, the more deeper and truer your love will be. Just enjoy the dating period for a while and both of you will truly value the relationship and the commitment to each other.
#2 Fall in love with each other even before popping the question. As humans, we only enjoy something and value it when we’ve worked hard to achieve it. Even if there’s a lot of love in the air, let the confusion stay for a while. Linger for a few months, maybe even six months before both of you give your relationship a name.
By doing this, you’ll always remember your wooing and pursuing days forever and treasure every step you took before actually committing to each other. And if your partner couldn’t wait even a few months, could they really be satisfied with you for the rest of your life?
#3 Don’t have sex for as long as you can hold it. Call me old fashioned, but in these days of fast love, all of us are ever ready to take a plunge into sex as soon as we possibly can. It’s not a bad thing, but at times, prolonging it can actually bring both of you closer without the confusion of sex and lust which can create a strong infatuation that can be confused with love.
#4 Go out of your way to please each other. Fairytales have a lot of evil plots. You really don’t need them in your life. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go out of your way to do something special for your lover. At least in the first few months of love, put in your effort and labor of love to prove your love for this special person.
#5 Always look good on a date. Fairytale romances always look so beautiful. The setting is always perfect. The lovers look pretty and the dates look like, well, fairytales. If you really want to experience falling in love like a fairytale, learn to look good for each other. Awe your date each time with your beauty and grace, and both of you will create a picture perfect romance.
#6 Don’t spend too much time meeting each other at the beginning. Unless you’re living together already, don’t crowd each other’s spaces. Give space to miss each other and fall more in love all the time. Sometimes, it takes missing each other to fall more in love with each other. You can meet each other every day if you want to, but don’t spend all your free time together. Learn to miss your lover and your love will bloom like never before.
#7 Be the perfect lady and gentleman for each other. Boring lovers say chivalry is dead. But true lovers know it’s actually the only way to show much you care about each other. Treat each other like knights and damsels when you’re with each other. Respect each other and always look for ways to make something easier for each other.
#8 Keep the chase alive after getting into the relationship. Don’t be easy to get. Compromise, but don’t be a doormat. As much as falling in love should be about giving in to each other’s wants, it’s not about putting up with each other. Never lose respect for each other and learn to play hard to get when your partner disrespects you or takes you for granted.
#9 Stay in touch. Old fairytales are filled with love letters and thoughtful souvenirs of love. You don’t have to be with each other all the time, but keep each other updated through little texts and happy surprises. Buy little gifts when you go shopping by yourself, or when you see something your partner may like. Take off on weekend getaways or vacations now and then to keep the connection alive.
#10 Create new experiences all the time. Love is impatient, just like youth. You’d want to experience everything it has to offer immediately. But if you genuinely think you like someone, don’t rush into it. Plan activities with your partner but keep a few experiences in mind for later too. Love, just like everything else in life, has to be fuelled constantly with new experiences.
#11 Make an effort to stay loyal. I admit, it’s not easy to stay loyal when there are so many good looking people and flirty banter all around us. But ask yourself, is a few minutes of orgasms worth breaking the special bond you have with your lover?
#12 Communicate with each other. Spend a lot of time talking to each other and learn about each other’s wants and desires in all aspects of your lives if you want to fall in love like a fairytale.
#13 Always end an argument. You don’t have to fear arguments in a relationship. Fairytales have them too. But what matters when you have an argument is the way you end it. Never walk away from an argument and shut the door on your partner. Even if it hurts like crazy, talk about it and always end the argument with a warm hug and a kiss, even if you’re clenching your fists behind your partner’s back.
#14 Don’t ignore sex once you get intimate. Yes, seeing the same bodies are bound to get rather boring after a while. But good sex is very important if you want to keep love alive in your relationship. Look for ways to recreate the passion of first time sex and you’re relationship will be perfect.
#15 Special gestures. Falling in love is easy when there’s attraction and infatuation in the air. Staying in love needs a few reminders now and then. Don’t overlook the smallest of gestures if you think it’ll bring a smile on your lover’s lips.
#16 Make long term plans. Talk about your lives together with each other. Make little plans together for the future. Can you imagine waking up every morning with no purpose or direction? Your life would be rather dull and boring, don’t you think? If you want to fall in love and stay in love, you need to give meaning and a purpose to your relationship by creating little milestones and goals to keep the excitement and passion alive.
#17 Always look at the bright side. Be happy and cheerful in your everyday lives. People who dwell on sadness and pain have a way of attracting it in their daily lives. If you want your love life to feel like a fairytale, be positive in your thoughts and expectations from the relationship. If you fear your relationship is going downward, in all probability, it will.
#18 Create memories and save them. If you want to know how to fall in love and keep the love alive, never let love get repetitive or stagnant. Don’t ever take each other for granted either. Instead, share new activities together, be it gardening or going on a trek. And always take photographs or make home videos together. Special memories of everyday moments can actually help both of you fall more in love with each other each time you watch those photographs or videos again.
Don’t lose faith in love. Your dreams of perfect love is in your own hands. Understand how to fall in love and stay in love the right way, and your fairytale romance will definitely have a happily ever after.
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