Have you ever wondered why older men prefer younger women? What's the big deal anyways?
So many ladies ask me what is up with older men dating younger women. There is actually an evolutionary psychological theory surrounding this common "phenomenon." There have been many studies conducted exploring the reasons behind older men dating younger woman. One of them published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology, looked at 400 romantic ads in the Swedish newspapers Göteborgs-Posten and Aftonbladet and on the websites Spraydate and match.com.
Men in all categories prefer younger partners. Of a total of 97 men who mentioned age in their ads, only three were looking for an older partner — among men aged 40 to 59, only one out of 67.
Women I've interviewed between the ages of 40–70 largely believe men their age are not interested in dating someone their own age. Studies show older men prefer youth and beauty first for mate selection and women choose men who offer resources and stability. It's no surprise there are a number of websites emerging and profiting from these "mutually benefiting" relationships. The "successful older man" seeking "young attractive female" is common place. Let's reveal some of the reasons behind older men dating younger women.
1. He's having a mid-life crisis. Well this is an easy explanation. Men, who feel they've been "tied down" for far too long or what he considers a marriage of obligation, feel as if he's been cheated of his youth and his "fun years." It's as if he seeks a younger woman to replace his older model (wife) and convince himself somehow dating a younger woman will bring back his youthfulness and give him a second chance to have fun again.
A gentleman dating a younger woman is not like having a time machine. This is about the same time he spends his money more freely on extravagant man toys, replaces his wardrobe, invests in hair club for men and maybe hires a personal trainer. Some men date younger woman to prove to themselves they haven't lost his touch.
2. He wants to have a child or more kids. I have encountered many men over 40 who admit to wanting to have more children —regardless of the fact he may have already raised a few of his own. Dating a younger woman in this case he believes is a requirement (or excuse) to decrease the odds of any birth defects or health risks to a woman on the border of her child bearing years.
If an older man hasn't had the chance to father a child, he seeks a younger woman for this specific purpose. This seems more like a fostering plan for some but some men want to carry on their legacy with children of their own. Men have biological clocks too if you didn't already know and assume older women cannot safely have children.
3. Men assume all women their age are like their ex-wife or partner. As the saying goes, "Once burnt, twice shy." Some men have this ridiculous belief women their own age are all the same. I'll share an example. If he's had a bad experience with his partner going through menopause, frankly it scares the crap out of him to think about having to go through it all over again with someone new.
Menopause seems to be a cause for many failed marriages or at least that's what some men I've talked with blame it on. If he's ever been online dating or on a few sour blind dates with a woman who's still bitter about her break up; all of a sudden he thinks they're all like that.
Younger women, who have never been in a serious relationship or "tainted" by a bad marriage seem like a great option for an older man, believing this will be a stress and drama free relationship. Unfortunately for him, his assumptions about dating a younger woman being "hassle-free" may be very, very wrong. Most relationship require work and cooperation to make it successful.
Thankfully not all older men seek younger women for a relationship. When you consider what makes a successful long-term, healthy relationship last, age is just one consideration in a number of relationship factors to consider.
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