Remember when you felt sexually advanced if you'd reached second base? Well, it's time to bring your hands back into the bedroom—and not just as a tool for getting your girlfriend off. "Hands can add so much creativity to sensuality," says Marianne Brandon, Ph.D., author of Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido. "Women really like to be teased, and hands are an important part of that intensity building." In other words, your digits are capable of sexual stimulation that your penis isn't—you just have to know how to turn them into your own personal sex toys. Ready to bring all hands on deck? Try these seven moves to stoke her desire, stat. 

2.Trace her body

3. Spread her lips

If you think you can't survive without sex, you might be right.

Several studies suggest that frequent ejaculation over many years may cut prostate cancer risk. In one US study, 29,000 men, ages 46 to 81, were asked their history of sexual intercourse and masturbation between the ages of 20 and 49.

Researchers analysed the data and found that the group of men who reported 21 orgasms per month had much lower risk of prostate cancer than those who had 7 or fewer ejaculations per month.

The researchers speculated that the protection may come from the two factors: ejaculation may drain carcinogenic secretions from the prostate, plus, the stress-reduction benefit from orgasm may limit potential harmful substances that could trigger cancer.

And it doesn't just stop cancer. An Irish study published in the British Medical Journal that men who had the highest frequency of orgasms had a death rate 50% lower than men who did not ejaculate frequently. Taking care of your health has never been so much fun, right?

The maxim "He knows me better than I know myself"? Well, it probably doesn't hold true when it comes to pleasure centres. If you're like many women, you have had a long-term relationship and, with concentration, can yourself get the deed done during a commercial break-without even muting the TV-if you so choose.

 All jokes aside, masturbation is important because it "lets you take control of your satisfaction," says Prabha Nagaraja, executive director of TARSHI, a New Delhibased NGO that works on issues of sexuality. In India, there is still a sense of shame in exploring one's sexuality but Prabha stresses on the importance of women giving themselves permission to appreciate their sensuality.

"It is a safe way of learning about one's body-what is pleasurable and what isn't." Add to that: masturbation is a pressure release, a natural sleeping pill and a plain old-fashioned good time (as if we needed to sell you on it). Still, even if you and your vagina are so in sync you finish each other's sentences, your sex life with yourself, like with any long-term partner, has room for improvement. So put away your vibrator.

Not forever-just for a few minutes. Because to improve your self-loving skills, the best place to start is the mind. "Seduce yourself," suggests sex coach Amy Levine, founder of IgniteYourPleasure. com. That doesn't mean making a rose-petal path to your bed, but some low-maintenance pampering can get you in the mood. Levine recommends playing soft music and lighting candles. Porn works too, if that's your thing. So does eyes-closed fantasising. Says sexuality educator Timaree Schmit, Ph.D.: "Envision a situation that turns you on, and let it fully develop. Never judge yourself or say you should be thinking about something or someone differently. There's no so-called thought police." Once you've worked yourself into a mental lather, focus on your body. Levine suggests starting with a slow full-body self-massage.

You already know the one or two spots that can send you over the edge, but now is your chance to discover untapped sources of pleasure. Levine says to pay special attention to your neck, the back of your knees, your thighs and your perineum, which is the stretch of skin between your vagina and anal opening. After your massage, avoid falling into your time-worn getting-off pattern. Switch up your position, suggests Levine: if you always masturbate while lying on your back, try it on all fours, or sitting in a comfortable chair, or even standing, bent over a table or the bed.

Try kneeling as if you're straddling your partner. Variety is key to your sex life, so why shouldn't that extend to your self-love life? If you need more convincing, know this: by masturbating the same way every time, you might have more difficulty getting off when you're with a partner. So stay flexible. Speaking of which, consider taking a yoga classand then getting it on with yourself as soon as you arrive home, says Levine. "The breath work and the flow of the poses allow us to be in the moment and out of our head," she says. In other words, yoga can diminish all those thoughts of your boss, your bank account or whatever other worries might distract you.

Perfect your technique at home. "Just as each of us has different tastes in food, we will each also be stimulated in different ways," says Dr Rajan Bhonsle, honorary professor and HOD, department of sexual medicine, KEM hospital, Mumbai. "Discover what turns you on and this will help you in experiencing pleasure with or without a partner. Get creative with your fingers-whether it's to stimulate your clitoris or to set out on The Great G-Spot Hunt. The G-spot is a couple of inches inside the vagina, on the front wall. "Try to find an area the size of a small coin that feels raised, ridged or firmer than the tissue around it," says Charlie Glickman, Ph.D., a sexuality educator. "It's often easier to find when you're turned on, as it swells." And the good news is that you don't need toys to get you going. Vibrators operate on a single frequency-your fingers, on the other hand, will do what you make them do. "Just do what feels best for you, and maintain hygiene at all times," says Bhonsle. All that matters is that you feel good. And if you're playing sexy music, massaging yourself and writhing in a chair while feeling good, all the better.

Sex is a topic that probably has more myths associated with it than facts. Practically every body part that plays a part in the sexual act has been analysed, scrutinized, facts and myths derived upon. 

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 Myth 1: Size matters

It’s not so much the size; it is what you can do with it. A bigger penis doesn’t guarantee great sex. And after all, most women’s vaginas are just three to five inches deep. Better moves and different positions make the size debate immaterial.

Myth 2: Orgasm every time

A lot of women don’t hit the big O every time they have sex. This is where faking or coital stimulation comes into play. For some women, only particular positions work while others might need more intangible help – romantic setting, longer foreplay etc.

Myth 3: Masturbation is unhealthy

Masturbation is just simulated sex. Sex isn’t unhealthy, so isn’t masturbation. There are no limits on the number of times one can do it either. Just ensure it doesn’t become an obsession that eats in to your work or study time.

Myth 4: Good sex should be spontaneous

Chances of spontaneous good sex are few and far between. Sometimes you need to work towards making sex good. Either planning something special or getting innovative would help.

Myth 5: Men want sex more

That’s what men would love to believe. It’s similar to the size myth. Fact is, though, that sex drive isn’t dependent on the gender. Sex drive in both men and women vary with age, stress levels, health and mental state.

Myth 6: Compatibility is equal to good sex

Getting along well off the bed isn’t the same as great chemistry in bed. What works for one person might not work for the other. But keep experimenting and you might arrive at techniques and positions that work for both.

 Myth 7: Must reach orgasm at the same time

That is like saying two people must get the same marks in every test they ever take. It’s great when two people orgasm at the same time. But it can be good otherwise too. Think of it this way, sex lasts longer when you take turns.

 Myth 8: Virginity is easily detectable during sex

The hymen in girls is a very thin layer of skin that breaks with a very little pressure. It can break during some heavy exercises like riding or swimming much before the girl has sex for the first time. You cannot really know when the hymen breaks because the other myth that most girls bleed a little when it breaks is equally faulty.

 Myth 9: Men can’t have multiple orgasms

Orgasm and ejaculation are often mistaken for the same thing in men. They often happen either together or ejaculation occurs soon after orgasm. But with a little practice, multiple orgasms are possible for men.

 Myth 10: The safe cycle is really safe

Each woman’s menstrual cycle varies. It even varies in the same woman over time, depending on physical health, stress levels, hormonal health etc. The safe cycle is a good method only when you have a regular 28-day cycle but it isn’t fool proof.

 Myth 11: Intercourse should last a long time

There are quickies and all-night romps. Sex should last as long as the two partners make it last. Best though is to vary the duration and intensity to keep sexual lives healthy longer.